The Gap Between Intention and Action
Most people understand what they should be doing. The difficulty lies in sustaining those behaviours over time.
Why Behaviour Change Is So Difficult
Behaviour is shaped by habits, environment, emotional state, and identity — not simply willpower, which is inconsistent and unreliable over time.
A Kinder Approach to Change
The Kindness Method by Shahroo Izadi emphasises that lasting change comes from understanding behaviour and treating ourselves with the same kindness we would offer a friend. Changing habits is inherently difficult. Missing a day or falling off track is not failure — it is part of the process. Progress is iterative, not all-or-nothing.
Behaviour as a System
Habits form through cue → action → reward loops. To change behaviour, we must redesign the system, not rely on intention alone. Start small, reduce friction, attach habits to existing routines, focus on identity, and track progress without judgment.